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The Least Expected-Self Sufficiency & Independence

There they go again. Your child with Apraxia is crawling or stumbling their way to a cool toy, without even asking or trying to ask for it. Or you're picking up your child from that after-school program and realize they are playing alone. They do not seem phased by this: by the extra effort in stumbling to their toy or even playing by themselves, yet this is crushing you.

We live in a social, communicative world. We only exist when others acknowledge us.

So how exactly is your child with Apraxia seemingly content with self-sufficiency, this level of independence that most Adults lack? Obviously they will need to learn how to engage in this overly social world, but for now-why are they incredibly independent?

Kids adjust to their environment in order to satisfy their desires. When a child with Apraxia learns that no one understands them, it doesn't take away their desire to play with the cool Toy Truck or Barbie Doll in the corner.

In the beginning they may cry and babble, trying to obtain your understanding, but this only works a few times.

They will get impatient over time and rather than trying to force you to understand them, isn't it just easier to crawl or stumble their way over to the to without asking first?

For them, it is much easier to go on their way than to try to force you to understand them.

This may translate over socially as well. They still want playtime like their peers, but may not have a true friend on the play ground to spend time with. Thus, you'll notice them playing by themselves.

Many parents express their astonishment with how independent and self-sufficient their children with Apraxia act. Personally, I can't see it any other way. Children with Apraxia quickly learn in life that you cannot rely on others around you-if you want that toy, go obtain it yourself. If you want to be on the swings, then walk towards them.

This independent nature will be challenged and should be challenged as they get older: signing them up for sports, clubs, and other activities will challenge them so they do not get too comfortable in their bubbles.

However, the one true blessing in all of this is that even despite this speech disorder-these children with Apraxia will always pursue what they truly want.

I truly believe that Apraxia, despite it's obstacles and annoyances, gives children a unique independent spirit that will never leave them.

They will have very little shame in pursuing whatever they want in the future, even when their friends or family members think they're crazy.

Independence, self-sufficiency, and the drive to pursue what one wants are the gifts and skills that are instilled in these children with Apraxia at such a young age.






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